This post is the first in a series of post we will be putting out over the next couple weeks in relation to secure attachment and bonding with your child.
To begin with, it is useful to define secure attachment and bonding and discuss why these things are important to early childhood development. A secure attachment in early childhood is evident in children who display some distress when their parent (or primary caregiver) leaves them in a new setting (such as their first day of preschool) but is able to calm down and start interacting in the new setting. Children with a secure attachment feel secure because they have a strong and positive relationship with their primary caregiver (usually mom).
Secure attachment has been found to predict how well children do as they navigate through years of school, through new life situations and stressors as they grow up, and even how they conduct themselves in relationships as adults.
Secure attachment is build through attachment bonding which is the emotional communication between parent and child, most of which is nonverbal, and this bonding is best done at the infant age but can be formed at any time.
An important thing to keep in mind is that the attachment bond itself is not an indication of perfect parenting or a presence or lack of attachment. Children and parents naturally create an attachment and a loving bond. But the strength and nature of the attachment can vary depending on the consistency and style of emotional communication between parent and child. A secure attachment ensures that the child feels secure, and understood.
There will be more information to come on secure attachment and bonding.